One of my favorite movies is the 2005 hit Hitch, starring Will Smith, Eva Mendes and Kevin James. In the beginning of the movie, Alex Hitchens (Smith) says: 60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you're saying ain't coming out of your mouth. Is it true? I would say "Yes."
As someone who takes all my classes online, that leaves me plenty of time to do more things. I have more opprotunities to have lunch with friends and family. I can do more of my personal things. I study whenever I want. I can work more hours.
But one of the things I see everytime I head out of the house in the morning and to the point where I'm ready to retire for the evening, is seeing different types of people. From homeless people looking for spare change outsideto CEOs walking gthe skyway systems of Downtown St. Paul and Minneapolis. Everybody's got something to say, even when you are not saying anything verbally.
The way we walk, to the way we dance, to the way we dress ourselves, to the way we sit says something about us or the music we listen to. Let's talk about me and those five things I just listed.
The Way We Walk
More ways than anything, I walk like a hunchback. Mainly because I am carrying a 500 pound backpack on my back, which is causing me to do that. Okay I'm exagerating about the 500 pounds but as a college student, it surely feels like that, especially since I carry everything with me in my backpack. Mainly I carry textbooks, bus schedules, pens/pencles, a mimi stapler, paper, some asprin for headaches, and other small stuff (like my camera, iPod, cords and the list goes on). I also carry a second bad, which has my Macintosh laptop, notepads and folders. While I make every attempt to carry light, sometimes it doesn't work out well.
It's because of my "hunchback" problems, it's caused me to look down, instead of up. It makes me look like I'm having a bad day. Depressed. When in truth, it's because of my heavy backpack that's making me look like that. When I walk straight and look confident, my backs hurts like no other. So again, I have to walk looking down.
I bought a new computer bag, so hopefully it will help me, not only look more confident when I walk, but saves me from having back surgery in the next couple years.
The Way We Dance
I'm going to admit this right away: I can't dance. Because I'm so bad at it, I have to have a couple of drinks in my system so the memory of it is short lived. When I hit the dance floor, I just go out and basically just wing it. The way you dance also releases nonverbal communication about yourself.
By the way, if you want to see how I dance, I pulled this YouTube video. This this how Kevin James danced in the movie. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Py5qAH7wELY
Do women relate dacing to sex, I sincerly hope not otherwise I might be completly out of luck.
:-)
But I suppose danicng is all about taking a risk, and having fun, as in towards the end of the move. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEsi-eWtBdY
The Way We Dress
I am not a suit and tie type of person. I have always been more of a casual dresser: nice shirt, jeans and casual shoes. And if the situation warents, a sports jacket. Usually when I see people wearing this type of clothing, it usually means that person is laid back and easy going, where as you see people with suits, you assume that they have what everyone wants: Power and money. I try to stay away from people who have this type of power knowing, that I may not be "in their league" to say the least.
When I walk down the street, I see people wearing different kinds of clothes. Bu they can tell you about their personality. For example, when you see girls who reveal too much of themselves or when guys have their pants down well below the waist (sagging pants). Which are most commonly the cops' best friends because in a running chase, their pants fall and the police gets you right away because you're to busy trying to pull your pants back up.
The Way We Sit
When I'm on the bus, sitting on the computer at the library or at work, or when I'm with someone, I try to sit up straight, feet on the grond, looking like I'm trying to say "I'm confident." But there's people who don't really care about their posture. I see people on the bus who sit sideways, or sliding off the seat. That usually tells me that their laid back, but don't want anyone to approch them.
The Music We Listen To
The music we listen to also says something about us. There are many types of music that people listen to. From easy listening to heavy rock and rap, it tells us something. Personally, I like to listen to more upbeat music in the morning and more softer music at night.
I know there are many more types but I just wanted to comment on the most frequent ones. Now if you excuse me, I have to practice dancing so one day I can do this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nwBbMXYDsXw
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