Crazymakers

When I first heard of the term "crazymakers", I thought it meant people who like to be a little crazy, or creative, in their lives. Apparently, I wasn't even close to the actual meaning.

Psychologist George Bach uses the term "crazymakers" (It occures when people have feelings of resientment, anger, or rage that they are unable or unwelling to expres directly) to describe passive-aggression behavior (defined as "a communicator expresses hostility in an obscure or manipulative way).

What are the types of "crazymakers"? Here they are:

Avoider: Refuses to fight


Pseudoaccommodator: Pretends to give in and continues to act the same way

Guiltmaker: Try to make others feel responsible for causing pain. "It's OK, don't worry about me..."


The Mind Reader: Go into character analysis and say what their partner really means or what's wrong with their partner.

Trapper: Set up a desired behavior for their partners and then, when its met, attacking the very behavior they requested. "Let's be totally honest with each other.." and then attacks the self disclosure

Crisis Tickler: Almost bring about what's bothering them but never quite express themselves. If someone is concerned about finances, "Gee, how much did that cost?"

Gunnysacker: Thet put their resentments into a sack which they pour out at later date and overwhelm an unsuspecting victim

Trivial Tyrannizer: Do things that they know will get their partners goat --leaving dirty dishes in the sink, fingernail clippings in the bed, turning up the TV too loud, etc.

Beltliner: Strike blow the psychological beltlining by using intimate knowledge to hurt their partner


Joker: Kid with partners and block the expression of important feelings

Withholder: Instead of expressing anger honestly and directly they hold back something--courtesy, affection, sex.


Benedict Arnold: Get partners back by sabotage, by failing to defend them or encouraging ridicule from others.

Which one of these are you? I was surprised when I read the section and realized what I used on others and what others used on me. I won't say which one of these I am. I don't want anyone getting the wrong idea about me.

Source:
Looking Out, Looking In by Ronald B., Adler & Russell F. Proctor II